Stop trying to be perfect and start embracing the gift of an idea
From the moment I put on my first pair of ballet slippers I wanted to be perfect - perfect in class, perfect in rehearsal, and perfect on stage. The desire to be perfect spilled over into my schoolwork too. Not only did I want to garner the most applause for my skillful pirouettes and daring jetes, I also wanted to score 100% on every assignment. Sadly, and because I didn’t understand that being perfect at EVERYTHING wasn’t realistic, I spent many nights sitting at the dining room table, crying over blank sheets of lined paper, afraid of producing something less than perfect on my first try.
Don’t get me wrong, being focused, driven and meticulous isn’t a bad thing (after all I have built a successful legal career and business based in part on those characteristics) however, the desire to be perfect at something on the first try can quickly turn into a debilitating block, stifling one’s creativity and inhibiting one’s passions.
Recently, I relived some of those sad dining room table moments with my youngest son. As I watched him struggle and agonize over every word before he put pen to paper I realized two things: first, we are a lot more similar than I had realized and second, we had to have an important conversation - one that focused on DOING rather than striving for perfection.
During our talk we zeroed in on letting go of our egos. We talked about the value of writing things down, planning things out and letting others critique our work. We talked about the many drafts and iterations a project can go through before it is complete. We also talked about how this process of doing and redoing based on feedback pushes us to consider different points of view and allows us to reach an even bigger audience.
As a mom, it felt good to have this talk. Not only was I able to share some valuable information with my son but I gained much needed momentum to challenge myself.
In an effort to stretch myself as a professional, I signed up for an online course called Venture Deals. This course, offered by Kaufman Fellows and TechStars, teaches people the ins and outs of venture capital deals. I had wanted to take this course for some time but I was intimidated about doing group work with people that have experience in this area while most of my experience is in criminal defense - THERE WAS THAT NASTY EGO AGAIN. But after the talk I had with my son, I couldn’t allow potential embarrassment to prevent my learning. So what if I don’t know what convertible debt is and “term sheets” sounds scary? I knew I needed to shift my focus from being perfect out of the gate to actually engaging and DOING.
After two weeks in, I have to say that I LOVE this course. I am enriching my life, my practice, and the future of my family, not to mention, keeping SANE during the biggest slow down I have ever experienced during my lifetime.
To all the budding pioneers out there, I leave you with the immortal words of Amelia Earhart, “The Most Effective Way to Do It, Is to Do It!” Stop trying to be perfect, stop agonizing over what might not work and start embracing the gift of an idea. Stay safe, stay healthy and DO IT - WHATEVER “IT” MAY BE!